Written by Dr. Chelsea McGivney, Veterinarian and General Manager, Caring Pathways
The holiday season is often described as the most wonderful time of the year. It’s a time of family gatherings, festive traditions, and moments of joy. But for those who have recently lost a beloved pet, this season can also bring a deep sense of longing and heartache. As a veterinarian and General Manager of Caring Pathways, an at-home end-of-life veterinary practice, I’ve witnessed firsthand how profoundly the loss of a pet impacts individuals and families.
Losing a pet is never easy, but during the holidays, the absence of their companionship feels especially poignant. The memories of them curled up by the fire, eagerly unwrapping presents, or joining family dinners can serve as bittersweet reminders of their absence. If you’re navigating pet loss this holiday season, I hope the following insights and strategies provide you with comfort and clarity.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Grief is a personal journey, and there’s no right or wrong way to experience it. The holiday season often amplifies emotions, as society encourages us to feel cheerful and grateful. Allow yourself to feel whatever arises—whether it’s sadness, anger, or even moments of happiness as you recall fond memories with your pet.
It’s okay to step back from the hustle and bustle of the season to honor your emotions. Journaling about your pet, talking to a trusted friend, or engaging with a support group can be helpful ways to process your grief.
Create a Memorial Tradition
The holidays are filled with traditions, and incorporating your pet’s memory into these rituals can provide a sense of connection. Consider lighting a candle in their honor, hanging a special ornament on the tree, preparing a photo album of your favorite memories, or making a donation in their honor.
One idea I liked was to bake a batch of your dog’s favorite (dog-friendly) treats each year and donate them to a local shelter in his/her memory. Creating these moments of remembrance can bring comfort and keep your pet’s spirit alive in your holiday celebrations.
Reach Out for Support
Grief can feel isolating, especially when those around you might not fully understand the depth of your loss. Don’t hesitate to reach out to those who do—friends who are fellow pet lovers, grief counselors, or organizations like the Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement.
Caring Pathways also offers resources to support families during this time, including connecting with our Grief Support Specialist. Connecting with others who’ve experienced similar losses can validate your feelings and remind you that you’re not alone.
Practice Self-Compassion
The holidays are often filled with expectations—sending cards, hosting dinners, or attending events. If you’re grieving, it’s important to give yourself permission to adjust those expectations. It’s okay to say no to invitations or simplify your plans.
Self-compassion can also mean allowing moments of joy to enter your life without guilt. If laughter and happiness find their way into your holiday season, know that it doesn’t diminish the love you have for your pet.
Finding Hope Amid Grief & Remembering You’re Not Alone
The pain of loss is a reflection of the love we shared. While the holidays may be challenging, they also offer an opportunity to reflect on the joy your pet brought into your life. Their unconditional love, loyalty, and quirky habits are gifts that will forever be part of your story.
As time passes, the rawness of grief begins to soften. The tears may give way to smiles as you recall cherished memories. And while your heart may never feel quite the same, it expands to carry both the love you shared and the legacy they left behind.
If you’re navigating pet loss this holiday season, know that you’re not alone. At Caring Pathways, we understand how deeply pets touch our lives and how profound their loss can be. It’s our mission to support families during these difficult times and to honor the incredible bond between humans and their animal companions. Please reach out to us if you could use some additional support or resources to help you navigate this chapter in your life.
This holiday season, may you find moments of peace, connection, and remembrance. And above all, may you feel the enduring love of your cherished pet.
About the Author: Dr. Chelsea McGivney
Dr. Chelsea grew up in Albuquerque, NM and completed her undergraduate studies at the United States Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs, CO. Upon graduation, she was commissioned as an Air Force officer and stationed at Aviano Air Base in Aviano, Italy. After an honorable discharge from the Air Force, Dr. Chelsea pursued her veterinary degree at Colorado State University. She then moved to Maryland to complete a small animal rotating internship and continued working in Maryland as a small animal, general practitioner. Missing Colorado, Dr. Chelsea accepted a position as a veterinary associate at an at-home, end-of-life veterinary practice in Northern Colorado. Her career then took a turn when she was offered a position with Nestlé Purina and she pursued an opportunity in industry, while continuing regular work as a relief veterinarian.
This unique work history and experience prepared Dr. Chelsea to assume the role of General Manager at Caring Pathways, where she leads a team of at-home, end-of-life specialists. Her passion for facilitating the human-animal bond allows her to bring her professional experience and love of veterinary care together.
